When I grow up...
Do we ever really grow up? I find myself constantly searching for my ultimate career path. Currently I am a Realtor in SE Florida I enjoy selling houses love meeting and working with new people. Finding their little piece of paradise, their place in the sun. I believe that in order to be good at any job you really must enjoy what you are doing. I have had many jobs I enjoyed doing but none of them as much as creating candles and traveling to various venues craft shows to set up and sell them. It so far hasn't made me rich and probably never will. I have met many interesting individuals and I enjoy the travel aspect. I guess I am a bit of a gypsy in that respect. Never have been able to sit still in one location for very long. Being able to travel to to various shows keeps me sated and satisfies my need to roam.
I don't think my father ever really grew up either I remember living in many homes from Missouri to Florida and Tennessee to Texas. In a way it helped me to form friendships quickly but not having the stability of a group of steady comrades to grow up with and share stories of childhood and school with kind of injured me as well. By the time I was in High School I was ready to give up. Every time we would move and I would start a new school I would either end up behind in what was currently being taught or ahead which would cause me to lose interest. I have learned since then though that I most likely suffered from ADD I am pretty sure my father had it too. I often refer to this as the OOH Shiny effect seeing something new and exciting and interesting which distracts me from my current goal however as soon as the new wears off I lose interest and it goes undone for a while.
I have since being an adult gotten medication for ADD and WOW the differences in a day with medication and a day without are huge. I can get so many things accomplished when taking my medication it is amazing even to me, however being ADD sometimes causes me to forget to take it and after a full 24 hours I can see a difference. Go without for 2 days and I am a lost cause again.
But I have gone a bit off topic I was talking about growing up. I do not think we ever stop growing up we seem to enter seasons in our lives new people come into our lives who either help us grow or pull us down. The secret to continued growth is to steer clear of the people who tend to bring us down. Negative people are unhappy people we need to avoid or at least limit contact to these type of people. If these people are in our immediate family this can be difficult but not impossible. When someone who you have to be around is spewing negativity it causes ugliness to settle in your gut. I have found the best way to deal with these people is to excuse myself from them if I am on the phone I can tell them I really need to go I have something I need to attend to. They will try to keep you on the phone because misery loves company but you have to be strong to keep your positivity in check. Get off the phone and put their situation or problem out of your mind. If I am in their company I do my best to steer the subject to a neutral topic or excuse myself from them if I can't get the topic changed. Negative people will most often find something negative to say about most any topic you bring up. They do not like to see your happiness because they are miserable. I am not saying these people can't be changed but it sometimes requires a lot of mental energy and if you become drained of your mental energy then it is like a cut on your skin where infection can enter your body, when you find yourself becoming drained it is best to excuse yourself from the situation until you are stronger so you do not become infected.
Negative people will kill your drive in life so try to limit the negative people you allow yourself to be in the company of or you will have trouble moving ahead and growing.
Until next time always remember ... If you always do what you've always done you will always get what you've always got.... Change makes the difference!
